By Ruth Gregory
Well+Life+Tribe Panel Member and Transformational Life Coach
Once Upon a Time….. What was your favourite fairy tale? Take a pause in your
busy day and gift your mind with a little magic. What do you remember from your
childhood stories? The glass slipper? The handsome prince? The tower? The
beast? The beanstalk? The poisoned apple? The ogre? The witch?
It may seem irrelevant to be thinking about fairy stories now as an adult. But
think again my pretty. These stories touch our lives more than we know. The
themes, symbols and ideas embedded in fairy tales can reveal aspects of
ourselves that we may not consciously accept or recognise.
Perhaps you’re waiting for the prince - the right employee, the right investor, the
right job opportunity, the right piece of software, the right partner, the right salary, the right time…………
As soon as you’re ‘kissed’ by this, everything will change.
As Sleeping Beauty will tell you, it takes a long time to wait for that prince. A long
time when you’re inert, lifeless, passive, life passing you by.
We could of course channel our inner Jack, sell our cow and risk losing
everything for a handful of beans. Sound familiar? Imagine if Jack hadn’t gone
with his hunch, hadn’t had that vision, hadn’t been a risk-taker. Perhaps he
would still be living in poverty with his mother, and the magic beanstalk would be
enriching somebody else’s life. Maybe you’re something of a Jack yourself? An
entrepreneur, a visionary, a pioneer, someone who sees possibility everywhere?
Maybe self-control is a struggle for you. Perhaps you’re easily led off the path
into the dark woods or tempted by the shiny red apple or unable to resist the
gingerbread house. The inner saboteur was a challenge for Little Red Riding
Hood, Snow White, and Hansel and Gretel. What or who is the witch or the wolf
in your own life - the one thing you cannot resist even though you know it’s
dangerous, or perhaps because you know it’s dangerous?
These archetypal patterns are part of our psyche. They live amongst us and
within us. The rescuer, the saboteur, the victim, the innocent child, the witch, the
hero. And we are all familiar with those times when we have been lost, pursued
by the monster, alone in the woods, imprisoned in the tower.
To recognise the archetypes in your own life is to live more purposefully. Start
thinking about what books you're reading, what films you're watching. What art
and images are you drawn to? What songs and their lyrics resonate with you?
Those things that attract us are here to reflect what our unconscious wants us to
focus on or heal. They are messages from Spirit waiting to be alchemised into
the pure gold of self-awareness.
Alongside your Beast is Beauty. Behind your Beauty is the Beast. Venture into the shadowy forest, sip from the well of your unconscious, delight in the jewels of self awareness that are gathered there. You never know what you
"Go out in the woods, go out. If you don't go out in the woods nothing will ever
happen and your life will never begin." Clarissa Pinkola Estes
We’ll never reach the destination, but for those of us willing to go out into the
woods, to view our life’s journey with curiosity, to both smell the roses and feel
their thorns, we can be assured a deep and meaningful connection with our soul.
And what better happy ever after than that?
Ruth Gregory can be contacted at
M: 07704 109806