Do you prioritise the partner in your life ... ?

It's February so let's talk relationships ...

First things first, romance is the first step in most relationships, but it is not something that lasts forever. We're talking here about relationships ...

A relationship is about how two people can grow together, how they can continue to develop love through the life cycle of their relationship. It's about compromise, patience and kindness.

In this fast paced, social media driven, modern life, we expect what we see in magazines, Hollywood movies and read in fiction novels. The reality is most of us work longer hours than we should, have families that depend on us and are generally living at a more stressed out pace of life.

We are having less sex now than we have done for decades - our demands, lifestyle and sense of reality is taking over. Our expectation of being in a romantic relationship is in fact killing our relationships.

We need to make time for the relationship in our lives, we need to focus on intimacy, even if it means scheduling it in! We need to connect in our relationships in many ways - being intimate is one of the ways.

We're all busy and it's easy to forget our partners so here are some suggestions on how be close to, and connected with, your partner.

  • Make time to lie in bed together once a week

  • Shower together once a week

  • Have a weekend nap together

  • Hold hands together when you are out

  • Touch, when on the sofa together, stroke each other's hair, or rub stressed out shoulders

  • Kiss on the lips daily

  • Hug when one of you goes off for the day

Make your partner a priority with some of these suggestions for the next two months, and watch how your relationship grows in the right direction.